IS IT BETTER FOR SOMEONE TO LOVE YOU OR TRUST YOU??

I would submit to you that I would rather have someone trust me and in second place love me.

This may sound perplexing but I will explain.

A mother can love the most lowdown sorry sack of bones for a son or daughter but that does not mean she trust him or her.

It is far better to have someone’s trust than to have his or her love.

If someone trust you, trust me, they already love you, it is only natural.

So what does trust mean - assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something b: one in which confidence is placed

What sticks out to me in this definition is the word character.

6: moral excellence and firmness character

If you will notice when I looked up character there were 7 variations of the definition and the one about being of ( Good Character ) was almost dead last.

That seems to be the tone of our society today.

Moving back to trust.

When we come to the earth God has given us his trust to be obedient to the things we learn of him. When we learn Gods will then we must repent make restitution to the best of our ability and be baptized and receive the gift of the holy ghost and remain worthy of that gift. But we will mess up occasionally and that is where repentance comes in.

God gives us his trust unconditionally and it is up to us to keep that trust.

Once we break that trust by breaking his commandments it becomes our obligation to earn that trust back.

But how do we do that.

It is trough education.

First we have to realize that what we have done is wrong.

Now that may come by many different avenues.

We could have gotten caught.

We could have made a mistake and caught our self

Or through educating our self we realize we have made an error but continue to do it again then we break that trust.

Regardless the trust has been broken and even though it was given free the first go around it is expensive and hard to earn the second go around.

The only way really to earn it back no matter the situation is to become UN selfish because that is what brought you to the error in the first place.

So in life as we navigate our different relationships we will give trust and be given trust and if either party breaks that trust it must be earned back.

Now there are times in extreme cases the trust you once had can never be earned back.

These are known as deal breakers.

Well I looked up deal breaker and there was no definition but it did have suggested words so I chose ( deliberate )

Now when I looked up deliberate this is what it said

to think about or discuss issues and decisions carefully.

Often times in relationships the deal breakers we are faced with come from deliberate actions of the other party that were motivated by selfish desires.

During these times someone whom you thought was a friend becomes an enemy.