So what is selfish - 1: concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others.
I have found that there is no cure for selfish people. The only way a selfish person will change is through an act of God. This person must be humbled and only God knows the combination to their cure. A selfish person will never be a good friend because they can see no further than past their nose. This type of person will be your friend when life is good, especially if you have money but when the chips are down in your corner and you are in a dark hour you have become a Liability not an asset to them. And this is when their true feelings show.
I know of a story of a woman. On the outside to everyone this woman is a giver. She loved to give things to here niece and everyone else to see the smile on her face. This little niece grew up without a father. At first this was set up to be a sad scenario. but her grand father took the place of her father in many ways, insomuch that this little girl was considered the 5th child in his will. After his death When it come time to sell his estate not one of the children cared enough to grace the door of their home to even look for family pictures or other history. This young woman went through every piece of her (fathers) belongings to insure no important things like Genealogy was left behind. While she slaved for her cause each family member put in their disgust to the real estate agent about the paint and changes she made to his house to ready it to sell. No one would help but they all complained and some even snuck in to steal in the middle of the night to avoid contributing to the cause. When the homestead was sold and it came time to actually hand over some folding cash this Aunt was very adamant she did not want this girl to be considered in the estate. Many hurtful things were said and true personalities were revealed during this time. But after all of the bitter words were said in the attorneys office this aunt came to the young woman and said honey you know I was going to give you that money. When it was all said and done the young woman actually increased the value of the property far more than she received thus she actually earned her inheritance.
I share this story to help you understand that It is impossible to call back a bullet.
And often it is impossible to mend the hurtful things you do to family.
Since this instance this Aunt has went over and abound trying to buy this young woman’s love but she will never be able to remove the hole in this young woman’s heart when she realized the true feelings of the only family she had ever known.
So with that I will say this.
The LOVE of money is the root of all evil. Because loving money breeds selfishness, and selfishness is what brings homes, families, states, and countries to war.
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After seeing this instance played out and watching the fallout from each persons decisions involved, I have spent years pleading with my parents to write their wishes down on paper in a will.
I have told them when they die I will never go back to their house to fight over such material garbage no matter what the monetary value.
My family is worth more to me than any dollar can buy.
So If you are reading this and you don’t have a will
Get one today. And spend your kid’s inheritance so there will be nothing to fight over
Just kidding. Just be prayerful and wise in your estate planning.
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By D.Newburn
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